How many times have you considered the “purpose” of marriage? That’s right, the purpose. For thousands of years we as a human race have gotten married for one reason only, to have children.

Though children can be created without marriage the purpose of marriage was the guarantee that they would be raised and nurtured by one woman and one man. Not only is that the ONLY combination that can create children, it is the only combination that guarantees that the child from day one will be nurtured in the ways of life by a female and male perspective.

Each gender has an intrinsically unique understanding of life and how it works based on the fact that we are biologically different in our makeup as well as the chemical composition, i.e. testosterone or estrogen. When two humans that love and are committed to each other create a child, there is an indefinable bond that is instilled in them that is virtually impossible for people to understand who have never had a child of their own.

If you are a neo-Darwinist, you generally believe that nature’s “survival” instinct defines the male-female union not only as normative but essential. Any human scenario that can’t or won’t procreate is weeded out and destroyed as a drain on evolutionary progress. I know it sounds harsh but then again Darwinism provides no place for sentiment. It’s survival of the fittest.

After all, it postulates a closed universe that has no purpose OTHER than procreation, since survival is all there is and ever will be, amen. I believe it was Dawkins that stated the “universe never had you in mind,” or something to that effect. (I love how the Darwinist meta-physical religion always has to give cognitive skills and autonomy to a merciless and mindless universe. Even materialistic driven science TV programming describing biology constantly refers to the “design” of a species. Their inability to observe their own irrational faith-driven ideology as impossibly inconsistent with the way humans live would be funny if it wasn’t so tragic).

As a Christian, my belief in absolute truth on the other hand provides purpose and dignity for humanity. It also, by its revealed truth, establishes norms that are beyond utilitarian and instead driven by purpose, which does allow for altruism and compassion, and in the case of mother-father union, love and guidance for the offspring.

None of which derives from or can exist from an evolutionary model. I also believe God shadows the spiritual world by using three-dimensional examples of His universal truth. For example the Judeo/Christian God says that He created them male and female. We are individual and separate from each other yet we are told when we unite sexually we are literally one flesh.

Think of this! Two unique beings that become one and create an entirely new human! Now we have three humans that are all separate but equal simultaneously. The child equals the mom and dad, yet separate. Sound familiar? Three separate beings that are at once “one” yet at once separate. This is the mysterious trinity in real time. You know, without the burning bushes, tongues of fire and walking on water, that sort of sets the original in a class of His/Their own.

I have a certain perspective on marriage in that I am a child of divorce. The ripping away of the family unit by two people in supposed covenant has proven statistically over the years to be the price of a fatherless culture when it comes to crime and jail time. The abuse of children by step-spouses or a boyfriend/girlfriend in non-married union is beyond speculation.

I also realize that you can raise a functioning adult from a single parent and same sex scenario that ends up better than some kids that come from a normal marriage. But we didn’t use to gauge value by aberrations. We always STARTED from the best-case scenario and made due with the lesser. The idea of marriage being sacred and crucial to society is why children born out of wedlock were called “bastards” and given a social stigma as punishment to the progenitors in order to hopefully shame them into the responsibility that was expected with the privilege of having children.

I say all this with the absolute assurance that one day soon any and every “form” of “marriage” will exist in our country. Gay marriage is a guarantee. Eventually polygamists will win in court for being denied the option by consenting adults to engage in whatever form of marriage humans chose to create. This is post-modernism. This is culture-driven morality. Only in death will we held accountable for our choice to “love” others by demanding no moral perimeters. Only in death will we discover the price of believing human desire should become law and any behavior we choose becomes our right. In death does the creator of rights become the final arbiter.